Gratifying

You know it's nothing new

Bad news never had good timing

Then the circle of your friends

Will defend the silver lining

- John Mayer -

In life, laughing is equally important as finishing the pile of works. Indeed spending some time to relax and having fun with some friends can be the best remedy for stress. It's been a while, because everybody was busy so we didn't have time to leave the lab for a while and hang out like we used to (like playing rounders, badminton and barbecue at waterfall etc). Plus my head was overloaded with those craps, the ruined PhD evaluation, housemate crisis, visa problem that keep delaying the date. Hmm.. I think that all my experiments went rubbish cause I couldn't think straight with those loads. So, before this head explodes, let's get out of this. We were having girl's day at the royal garden, near the palace at JB. At first, jogging was the main agenda. However it turned out to be a photoshooting event. I laughed a lot, we laughed a lot, and I can feel all those problems flying away, far away. Thanks gals for making it happened :)

p/s: Pain throws your heart to the ground, love turns the whole thing around.

Demeanour

Humans are very unique creature. They might be looked physically same, but internally their feelings, behavior and thoughts are very dissimilar. We were raised in different ways, so sometimes the right for them isn't right for us. We were taught by our parents to do this and that, and not to do this and that. We were raised in those small community called a family and we were so comfortable with the culture created in it. However, as we grow up, we meet various kind of people and we socialize. At first, they seem mostly alike us, we have the same hair color and skin tone, speak the same language. But when this two different persons sharing their lives together, all those dissimilarities would then be revealed. Day by day, the differences are so obvious. We started to feel uncomfortable with them and worse case if we couldn't control our emotion, it will end up with argument and misunderstanding.

As I age, I started to learn that people are so different. There's no way we could expect that they will think and behave the same way we are. If they are, it's very rare. We might wait a lifetime to meet a person that behave and think exactly like us. Even soul mates argue too. So, how to build a happy, perfect relationship? It's all begin with negotiation. If we see with our heart, the differences are actually complementing each other. Say, one love to cook but very rejective when it comes to the cleaning part. And the other one is so not into cooking but very neat and hate the dirt. If we think in negative side, the neat person might piss off and think, "what the hell I should clean her/his plate, she/he's not a handicap." But think of opposite way, "she/he has done the cooking and I ate it to. Why not I do the cleaning for return."

Actually, I'm a little bit disturbed for what had just happened. I've never imagined we would end like this. I have started to love them like my own family. The note has really changed everything. And I can't deny that it keeps hurting me inside. Yeah, everything's happened with reasons, but I still couldn't see why is this happened. Maybe I just have to let it be and believe that some day I will see the hikmah that Allah has written for it.

p/s: sometimes we have to accept just the way he/she is cause nobody's perfect.

Loser like me

'Yeah, you may think that I'm a zero..but hey, everyone you wanna be probably started off like me'

Yesterday I had my PhD evaluation. It was suck. Suck like REALLY suck. I was like being shot and shot again, and finally slaughtered to death. Ok..that's too much. Anyway, ever since in my academic life, I had never been mentally tortured like that. I screwed up everything by not being able to answer the most simplest thing, the backbone of protein! I was totally blanked, like I never heard of it before. Then slowly I started to feel really really down and my self esteem drastically fell to its lowest level. If not because of I'm so good in bottling up my feeling, I would have cried in the presentation room, in front of the examiners. I felt like why I'm so stupid, that is the most fundamental knowledge that I should know. Then, when I was outside waiting for the examiners to discuss and come up with their decision whether to pass or fail me, the only thing in my mind was I'm ready to accept the fact that I don't deserve to study at the PhD level. My fundamental knowledge is too fragile. But then, I was a little bit shocked when the chairman said that I passed the evaluation and I can continue studying PhD. I bet that I didn't give the right facial expression when he said congratulations. I should have smiled, but probably because I was too ready to face the truth if I failed, so I just gave the expressionless face. And I think the chairman was giving quite a weird look to me.

But still I feel like I don't really deserve it. After a day, I still don't feel happy but the opposite. All this while, I just take for granted the chance of skipping the master studies. I don't study much, as much as a PhD student should have. I don't really organize my work and my time as a PhD student should. Now, I realize that I'm too comfort in my zone. What I can do is to go out of the zone and exploring the world. There is one quote that I love very much, and quite reflecting my situation right now, 'Yeah, you may think that I'm a zero..but hey, everyone you wanna be probably started off like me'. It's some part of lyric from Loser Like Me by Glee. At first I heard it, it really knocked me. I kept replaying the song again and again and it really hits me. The song is like consoling me and lifting up my spirit again, like come on, wake up. Everyone started off like you, from zero. So why bother, just wake up and live again and make yourself better. Yeah, I'll surely go for it!

I melt when he sings.

p/s: Grateful for being given another chance. Alhamdulillah.

I hate pills

When you start feeling the world is spinning and you walk like a drunker cause you can't feel your feet touching the floor, when your stomach makes funny noise like a growling sound but your tongue just can't accept any incoming food as it tastes them all bitter, and spending most of your time in a blanket seems like the only way could lead you to the heaven, then only you will be grateful for your health. Yesterday, I was tested. I had a strong fever which I haven't had for quite a long time. And been sick like that, I would just miss my mom so much. I felt like crying when I have to fight this sickness alone without having mom beside whose will always checking on my temperature and dab wet towel on my forehead. But then, it was just the miracle of mom's instinct, she called me. She might have some feeling that I was not feeling well. And yes, talking with her was always the best remedy (at least internally cured).

I hate pills. If you know me well you'll notice that. So I slept at least 15 hours, and skipped dinner (before that I just ate a plate of breakfast) hoping that my antibody would be strong enough to fight those bad bacteria or viruses. Plus the fact that our body will recover faster if we don't eat when sick because all our body's energy will go focusing on immune system to fight the antigens, so I thought I'll recover as soon as I woke up tomorrow morning (still refusing on taking pills). Unfortunately, I still felt the world was spinning though my temperature has reduced. There's no way I can go to the lab like this or else I would end up breaking the shake flasks. Thus, I have to now surrender to the drugs to continue the fighting. And for an "anti-pills person" like me, just one tablet of paracetamol plus some more sleep can be the most powerful grenade to win the battle.

I hate pills for reasons, first you know drugs are the number 1 killer of human. Second, my body is exposed long enough (8 hours a day, tell me is it long or short) with hazardous chemicals in the lab till I can't feel like they're toxic anymore because every day I play like "masak masak" with all those poisons and third, yeah, they comes in colorful and attractive shapes but off course none of them taste like strawberry. That's why I'm avoiding pills, unless for certain cases (in this case, I have the first stage evaluation for PhD this Thursday, so I need help from Mr Pills).

Pills, although you come in pink, you'll still be my nightmare..

p/s: appreciation comes only after the gift was taken back..alhamdulillah..