Demeanour

Humans are very unique creature. They might be looked physically same, but internally their feelings, behavior and thoughts are very dissimilar. We were raised in different ways, so sometimes the right for them isn't right for us. We were taught by our parents to do this and that, and not to do this and that. We were raised in those small community called a family and we were so comfortable with the culture created in it. However, as we grow up, we meet various kind of people and we socialize. At first, they seem mostly alike us, we have the same hair color and skin tone, speak the same language. But when this two different persons sharing their lives together, all those dissimilarities would then be revealed. Day by day, the differences are so obvious. We started to feel uncomfortable with them and worse case if we couldn't control our emotion, it will end up with argument and misunderstanding.

As I age, I started to learn that people are so different. There's no way we could expect that they will think and behave the same way we are. If they are, it's very rare. We might wait a lifetime to meet a person that behave and think exactly like us. Even soul mates argue too. So, how to build a happy, perfect relationship? It's all begin with negotiation. If we see with our heart, the differences are actually complementing each other. Say, one love to cook but very rejective when it comes to the cleaning part. And the other one is so not into cooking but very neat and hate the dirt. If we think in negative side, the neat person might piss off and think, "what the hell I should clean her/his plate, she/he's not a handicap." But think of opposite way, "she/he has done the cooking and I ate it to. Why not I do the cleaning for return."

Actually, I'm a little bit disturbed for what had just happened. I've never imagined we would end like this. I have started to love them like my own family. The note has really changed everything. And I can't deny that it keeps hurting me inside. Yeah, everything's happened with reasons, but I still couldn't see why is this happened. Maybe I just have to let it be and believe that some day I will see the hikmah that Allah has written for it.

p/s: sometimes we have to accept just the way he/she is cause nobody's perfect.